We aren’t weak for asking for help. As men we are expected to take it on the chin and suck it up. Be a man don’t have emotions.
It’s no wonder we die sooner than women. As men we tend to bottle all our shit up till it blows up.
Heart attacks, aneurisms, etc
Women let all that s*** out and release all their pent up emotions.
Growing up in an Asian household I didn’t see very much emotion from my father, even with him losing his parents and my mother he held strong on the outside. With my mother I knew it affected him but he still didn’t show anything. I think him holding all that s*** inside is what caused his own demise and led him to his own illness and death not much longer after her.
I was at the end of the road at the beginning of this year and felt like this was my rock bottom. I had been numb to everything till the news of the end of my marriage of 15 years. The emotions and all that came with it felt like I was being crushed.
The thing that saved me was getting help. Therapy, which I said I would never do. Have a stranger listen to my problems, fears, emotions, etc…. It was honestly the best thing I could’ve done for myself. At first it seemed strange but loosening up and letting go is what helped. I didn’t think I’d be this far this soon, as it felt like there wasn’t an end to the dread/dark tunnel that I felt.
It’s scary when you pictured this picture perfect life with your wife, child and future children. All the things you thought you were going to do together, places you were going to visit and all the future events together that are no longer your future. Becoming so hyper focused on the past and future of what you thought your reality was and was going to be isn’t healthy. I was stuck down that rabbit hole for a while. Having a coach and mentor helping me navigate a new future, which I could’ve never pictured my life being what it is now and moving forward. He’s helped me create a new path and future which gives me hope and excitement to move forward and give my daughter the best life I can give her.
Like I said F*** what society says, get the help you need to be the best man you can be. You aren’t weak for getting the help and guidance to move forward.